Why marriages fails?- Chapter one

When you meet someone you love and who loves you also,
Both of you fell in love,
You perform at your best to impress the other partner,
and you accepted his/her flaws as he/she accepted yours also,
But why would our local divorce rates are going up when people accepted each other flaws, from the beginning at least?

YOU MUST WATCH the movie THE BREAKUP.

Nope i not a Jennifer aniston fan, or a serious movie goer
but that show tells people a lot about our relationships with our partners...

In the show, the relationships crack started when Jennifer Aniston's family came to their home and her husband "didn't help"...the rest is up for you to watch...

Man is a hunter and woman is the gatherer.
It has been always like that, though the early female movements obtained voting rights, equal emloyment rights and same rights to civil liberty, much hasn't change in the family context.
let me name a simple couple as Mary and John

Case 1: Mary just get home from work, she quickly changed and get ready the dinner, she forget to buy a bottle of chilli for the dinner, she called John to get it, and she continue to make dinner and clean the house. When John returned, he just sit on the living room couch after putting the bottle of chilli on the kitchen table. He switched on the tv and watch his favourite news time or sports channel. Mary discovered that John had bought the wrong brand of the ingredient, she was used to the other brand. She told John but hewas just absorbed with the tv and refuse to go down. Mary returned to the kitchen and felt unhappy, start complaining. John became irritated with her complaining also...bad for the relationship

Explanation: woman are gatherer and their hands just keep on working, there's no stopping. Just look at how your mother clean up the house and you know that she don't bother to stop for rest. She will say : i haven't do this this and this , and you just do nothing to help? Woman care more about what they haven't done than what they had accomplish. Thus without settling down for a short nap Mary started making dinner. But for john, after a day at work, the hunter feeling is out, he THINKS HE DESERVE A GOOD REST NOW. So he just sit down and watch tv. He will felt irritated when the woman said he didn't did a good job(buying the wrong chilli) and he THINKS I HAD DONE MY PART AND APPRECIATE ME FOR IT.

Possible solutions: mary should have thanked John for buying the chilli first and then request politely that he had bought the wrong brand, and that the drive to the nearest convenient store won't take up too much of this tv time and he can enjoy a good meal after it. This way John will feel his testosterone level going up and felt important instead of being unappreciated.
John should have at least apologise to Mary. He should understand the point of view of Mary that she deserve a help or just a simple word of "honey, mmm...what are you cooking today, your dress looks nice on you.." and thanks for making dinner for him. John must also offered a little help at the kitchen, maybe simply washing the vegetables or beating the eggs..just 5 short minute of help at the kitchen is more appreciated by mary than 5 roses...guys...which is better?

It's hard to define the complexities in man and woman relationship..but we can slowly discover it