When you meet someone you love and who loves you also,
Both of you fell in love,
You perform at your best to impress the other partner,
and you accepted his/her flaws as he/she accepted yours also,
But why would our local divorce rates are going up when people accepted each other flaws, from the beginning at least?
YOU MUST WATCH the movie THE BREAKUP.
Nope i not a Jennifer aniston fan, or a serious movie goer
but that show tells people a lot about our relationships with our partners...
In the show, the relationships crack started when Jennifer Aniston's family came to their home and her husband "didn't help"...the rest is up for you to watch...
Man is a hunter and woman is the gatherer.
It has been always like that, though the early female movements obtained voting rights, equal emloyment rights and same rights to civil liberty, much hasn't change in the family context.
let me name a simple couple as Mary and John
Case 1: Mary just get home from work, she quickly changed and get ready the dinner, she forget to buy a bottle of chilli for the dinner, she called John to get it, and she continue to make dinner and clean the house. When John returned, he just sit on the living room couch after putting the bottle of chilli on the kitchen table. He switched on the tv and watch his favourite news time or sports channel. Mary discovered that John had bought the wrong brand of the ingredient, she was used to the other brand. She told John but hewas just absorbed with the tv and refuse to go down. Mary returned to the kitchen and felt unhappy, start complaining. John became irritated with her complaining also...bad for the relationship
Explanation: woman are gatherer and their hands just keep on working, there's no stopping. Just look at how your mother clean up the house and you know that she don't bother to stop for rest. She will say : i haven't do this this and this , and you just do nothing to help? Woman care more about what they haven't done than what they had accomplish. Thus without settling down for a short nap Mary started making dinner. But for john, after a day at work, the hunter feeling is out, he THINKS HE DESERVE A GOOD REST NOW. So he just sit down and watch tv. He will felt irritated when the woman said he didn't did a good job(buying the wrong chilli) and he THINKS I HAD DONE MY PART AND APPRECIATE ME FOR IT.
Possible solutions: mary should have thanked John for buying the chilli first and then request politely that he had bought the wrong brand, and that the drive to the nearest convenient store won't take up too much of this tv time and he can enjoy a good meal after it. This way John will feel his testosterone level going up and felt important instead of being unappreciated.
John should have at least apologise to Mary. He should understand the point of view of Mary that she deserve a help or just a simple word of "honey, mmm...what are you cooking today, your dress looks nice on you.." and thanks for making dinner for him. John must also offered a little help at the kitchen, maybe simply washing the vegetables or beating the eggs..just 5 short minute of help at the kitchen is more appreciated by mary than 5 roses...guys...which is better?
It's hard to define the complexities in man and woman relationship..but we can slowly discover it
27 January 2007
6 January 2007
Aries VS Virgo
a small snacks for you...
it's just a "superstitious" thingy so please don't take it too seriously okay
i gain these few knowledge about horoscope from a few years of "Vegging" in front of the TV, especially Mtv chinese and taiwan variety shows... viewers discretion is advised...PG
Aries:
Aries guys are a very emotional and passionate lot. When during breakups or bad quarrels with partners, most of the guys who like those in dramas: intoxicating oneself with alcohol, throwing glass wines or getting into fights, are mostly Aries guys. To most Aries guys(and maybe Aries girls as well), we are family oriented. If you want to win the heart of an aries, you got to care for his/her family first. Spend some effort and attention knowing and asking them about their family members, even their pet dog, they will like it very much. Aries guys will give up on a girl easily if he finds that she don't and won't care about his family. To us, the sweetest and most unforgettable part in a whole romance is the time from us letting our feelings be known directly to her until the time we get the answer from her. One weakness in Aries guys is that after we confessed or proposed, and the girl don't respond clearly or take too long, Aries guys will immediately take it very hard inside and lose tons of confidence, and may not even able to re-summon the courage to confess or propose again even if the girl wanted them to repeat.
Virgo:
Virgo girls are perfectionist. Perfectionist in the sense of the relationships, not so much of the guy's physical features. You can be an ugly ass, bankrupt, unfilial son, or useless piece of crap... but if you really love a Virgo girl and treat her well and confess to her, you stand a chance. On the other hand, even if you are a "white horse", super suave and talented mr ripley, as LONG as you said something wrong or hurtful to her, or let her find out something you did wrong...ITS THE END. Virgo girls can never forgive a unloyal partner or someone who hurt her, even though it's a simple slip of tongue. Virgo girls believe in perfect love from starting, no hiccups is supposed to happen on the way. So guys out there, if you want to have a Virgo girlfriend, just be super cautious with your actions and speech okay?
Scorpion:
most scorpion guys only looks for the physcial features of the girl. They seems to only accept super-good looking chics and leave the studious type alone.
scorpions girls are super choosy. They ONLY LIKE the guy they LIKE. What i mean is this...No matter how you try to court her or win her heart with your love letters, brochures, pamplets, emails...She WON"T like you UNLESS she already LIKES you INITIALLY. So if you like a scorpion girl but after a long time she still don't show any special care and concern for you, DON"T BE A COCKSTER and waste your time. Scorpion girls will give strong hints to you if they are attracted to you. And if you break up with a scorpion girl, she most likely refuse to be even friends with you cause she will hate you.
Leo:
Leo tends to want to have the romance under her control. Leo girls specially wanted to be the one to suggest breakup cause it allows them to feel to be in control. However they will be the ones who cries the most after a breakup. Leo are also the famous type who calls on your phone regularly to see where you are and who you are with.
Sagittarius:
saggittarius guys and girls tend to be the most attractive among their other friends(oops did i hurt anyone's feelings?) Saggittarius guys are particularly popular even though they may not speaks a lot. However most Saggittarius are forgetful, even when they have boy/girlfriends, they will still have very "close" and i mean close relationships with people of the other sex. To them they think as long as most of their heart goes to their boy/girlfriend it would be okay. So once in a while they need to be reminded for good.
I am still collecting information regarding other horoscopes's distinct characteristics. So if you got any information please share okay?
This is just for leisure only, it is not scientifically proven or lab-tested. DON"T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY. DON"T worry also, there will always be miracles. I got a friend who is also ARIES but is so different from me. Just remember, if you really love someone very much, don't let anything or any excuse stand in your way.
IF you disagree with me strongly, please post your comment to me so i can edit wherever deemed fit.
it's just a "superstitious" thingy so please don't take it too seriously okay
i gain these few knowledge about horoscope from a few years of "Vegging" in front of the TV, especially Mtv chinese and taiwan variety shows... viewers discretion is advised...PG
Aries:
Aries guys are a very emotional and passionate lot. When during breakups or bad quarrels with partners, most of the guys who like those in dramas: intoxicating oneself with alcohol, throwing glass wines or getting into fights, are mostly Aries guys. To most Aries guys(and maybe Aries girls as well), we are family oriented. If you want to win the heart of an aries, you got to care for his/her family first. Spend some effort and attention knowing and asking them about their family members, even their pet dog, they will like it very much. Aries guys will give up on a girl easily if he finds that she don't and won't care about his family. To us, the sweetest and most unforgettable part in a whole romance is the time from us letting our feelings be known directly to her until the time we get the answer from her. One weakness in Aries guys is that after we confessed or proposed, and the girl don't respond clearly or take too long, Aries guys will immediately take it very hard inside and lose tons of confidence, and may not even able to re-summon the courage to confess or propose again even if the girl wanted them to repeat.
Virgo:
Virgo girls are perfectionist. Perfectionist in the sense of the relationships, not so much of the guy's physical features. You can be an ugly ass, bankrupt, unfilial son, or useless piece of crap... but if you really love a Virgo girl and treat her well and confess to her, you stand a chance. On the other hand, even if you are a "white horse", super suave and talented mr ripley, as LONG as you said something wrong or hurtful to her, or let her find out something you did wrong...ITS THE END. Virgo girls can never forgive a unloyal partner or someone who hurt her, even though it's a simple slip of tongue. Virgo girls believe in perfect love from starting, no hiccups is supposed to happen on the way. So guys out there, if you want to have a Virgo girlfriend, just be super cautious with your actions and speech okay?
Scorpion:
most scorpion guys only looks for the physcial features of the girl. They seems to only accept super-good looking chics and leave the studious type alone.
scorpions girls are super choosy. They ONLY LIKE the guy they LIKE. What i mean is this...No matter how you try to court her or win her heart with your love letters, brochures, pamplets, emails...She WON"T like you UNLESS she already LIKES you INITIALLY. So if you like a scorpion girl but after a long time she still don't show any special care and concern for you, DON"T BE A COCKSTER and waste your time. Scorpion girls will give strong hints to you if they are attracted to you. And if you break up with a scorpion girl, she most likely refuse to be even friends with you cause she will hate you.
Leo:
Leo tends to want to have the romance under her control. Leo girls specially wanted to be the one to suggest breakup cause it allows them to feel to be in control. However they will be the ones who cries the most after a breakup. Leo are also the famous type who calls on your phone regularly to see where you are and who you are with.
Sagittarius:
saggittarius guys and girls tend to be the most attractive among their other friends(oops did i hurt anyone's feelings?) Saggittarius guys are particularly popular even though they may not speaks a lot. However most Saggittarius are forgetful, even when they have boy/girlfriends, they will still have very "close" and i mean close relationships with people of the other sex. To them they think as long as most of their heart goes to their boy/girlfriend it would be okay. So once in a while they need to be reminded for good.
I am still collecting information regarding other horoscopes's distinct characteristics. So if you got any information please share okay?
This is just for leisure only, it is not scientifically proven or lab-tested. DON"T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY. DON"T worry also, there will always be miracles. I got a friend who is also ARIES but is so different from me. Just remember, if you really love someone very much, don't let anything or any excuse stand in your way.
IF you disagree with me strongly, please post your comment to me so i can edit wherever deemed fit.
The 5 people you will meet in School
No matter where you go, there will always be a different mix of people you will encounter...
none of them alone is perfect, cause no one is...
the 1st person you will see...
is John
he is a guy with thick spectacles, wearing plain clothes and carry "secondary schoool era" bags on his back everywhere he went. He will loiter around the school computer labs, computer stores and comic stores. His favourites are anime and cartoons. He most of time look at the floor wherever he go as he try to avoid eye-to-eye contact. He knows everything about the latest IT gadgets in stores, is a genius in computer repair and basically live his life around computers. He is pretty good at studies and will ace subjects like computer and science. Chess club, librarian, computer and biology club is his dream CCA. He will tell you "hey you should not have bought that computer last week. Its graphic card is not the latest and it's application features sucks, you should have listen to me and...." . Well, he may be the next Bill Gates or Michael Dell, who knows?
the 2nd person you will meet...
is Mary
she is a girl who always never fails to attract your attention. It will not be surprising that most of the guys in your class also can't take their eyes off her. She will be in the latest fashion of clothes and accessories. She will charm everyone with her sweet voice and looks. She won't bother to talk to the average Joe. She prefer to clique with other expert socialites like her. She is too busy to join a CCA cause all her time is spent on makeup, shopping and dating. But if CCA is a compulsory thing, she will want to sign up for society or music and drama club. You can find them clubbing every saturday night. If you got a chance to talk to her or face-to-face encounter with her, she will say "wow, look at my watch here, xxx(a stupid rich guy) bought them for $xxxx at xxx(store) to give me leh. i don't want one but he still insisted, aiyah so sweet..." Okay..she's the next Paris Hilton
the 3rd person you will encounter...
is tom
he is the king at the basketball court. Once a while he also rules the soccer field and running tracks. Every day after school you will know exactly where to find him. He will be in his basketball shorts and sweating a few litres of sweat. Girls keep staring at him. at his muscular build and manly movements during the games( especially when basketball becomes wrestling ). He tends to hand in his homework late so don't bother to ask him to let you copy yesterday's tutorials, instead you should lend him. He will appear sleepy during class as his spirit is still at the court and his mind is still running the tracks or thinking how to kick the ball pass the other team's goalkeeper. If you want to challenge him to a game of basketball...good luck...he may shout "kao, you so near can't even get the ball in, nevermind i can volunteer to coach you, $100 per 1 hour training session okay? Deal? " Well, he is more money-minded than Michael Jordan and Lance Armstrong.
the 4th person that will cross your path...
is Ah Seng
he will always be the topic of conversation between teachers in office. He will always be caught for all the things that he shouldn't do: tucked out shirt, shouting and teasing at teachers, not handing in homework at all, top the class in every test from the bottom up. He believe in living his own rules, that no one can control him. He has a very vast reservoir of vocabulary of vulgar language. He always try to act cool infront of girls by boasting how many people (smaller size poor guys younger than him ) that he beat up and how many acres of land he "control". He seems to make others afraid of him as time goes by. However he is always dressed in the most funky clothes and stylish hairstyle and accessories. If he has to join a CCA he should be in rugby. But once in a full moon he will surprise you by saying "brother, thanks for helping me cheat during the exam, i OWE you one, anyone bully you tell me hor i go K him"...well, no thanks...to a next tribal chief
the 5th person is someone you can't miss out...
is Michael
he belongs to a majority of people you can find in this vast world. He tends to live peacefully with a small group of friends. Wearing expensive clothes only during special occasions, prefer less rigorous but rewarding CCAs like Civil Defence and adventure club. His circle of friends is his classmates, and only his classmates. He try to remain low profile and is very happy to always stay around with his classmates. Arcade is his love, but he may still say "I will want to concentrate on my studies so I can enter a good college and then enter a good university and then a good job and then a good managerial post and then a good retirement and then..." His life is really planned out, just like the uncle next door...
You and me may find ourselves very much alike to one of them, but there may be also a little bit of the other. You don't have to totally BELONG to any one of them, cause none of them are perfect, but it do pays to take a look at the positive attributes of the other characters. If you are a Michael, you may want to get some sporting energies from Tom and go to the nearest basketball to sweat it out after a long day at school, or learn the communication skills and confidence of Mary to make more friends in your CCAs and in school, or you can obtain the computer-sense from John and help your girlfriend repair her antique computer...
You should remain as what you are comfortable with, but be willing to dare to and be open minded towards exploring and adopting other people's positive traits...
none of them alone is perfect, cause no one is...
the 1st person you will see...
is John
he is a guy with thick spectacles, wearing plain clothes and carry "secondary schoool era" bags on his back everywhere he went. He will loiter around the school computer labs, computer stores and comic stores. His favourites are anime and cartoons. He most of time look at the floor wherever he go as he try to avoid eye-to-eye contact. He knows everything about the latest IT gadgets in stores, is a genius in computer repair and basically live his life around computers. He is pretty good at studies and will ace subjects like computer and science. Chess club, librarian, computer and biology club is his dream CCA. He will tell you "hey you should not have bought that computer last week. Its graphic card is not the latest and it's application features sucks, you should have listen to me and...." . Well, he may be the next Bill Gates or Michael Dell, who knows?
the 2nd person you will meet...
is Mary
she is a girl who always never fails to attract your attention. It will not be surprising that most of the guys in your class also can't take their eyes off her. She will be in the latest fashion of clothes and accessories. She will charm everyone with her sweet voice and looks. She won't bother to talk to the average Joe. She prefer to clique with other expert socialites like her. She is too busy to join a CCA cause all her time is spent on makeup, shopping and dating. But if CCA is a compulsory thing, she will want to sign up for society or music and drama club. You can find them clubbing every saturday night. If you got a chance to talk to her or face-to-face encounter with her, she will say "wow, look at my watch here, xxx(a stupid rich guy) bought them for $xxxx at xxx(store) to give me leh. i don't want one but he still insisted, aiyah so sweet..." Okay..she's the next Paris Hilton
the 3rd person you will encounter...
is tom
he is the king at the basketball court. Once a while he also rules the soccer field and running tracks. Every day after school you will know exactly where to find him. He will be in his basketball shorts and sweating a few litres of sweat. Girls keep staring at him. at his muscular build and manly movements during the games( especially when basketball becomes wrestling ). He tends to hand in his homework late so don't bother to ask him to let you copy yesterday's tutorials, instead you should lend him. He will appear sleepy during class as his spirit is still at the court and his mind is still running the tracks or thinking how to kick the ball pass the other team's goalkeeper. If you want to challenge him to a game of basketball...good luck...he may shout "kao, you so near can't even get the ball in, nevermind i can volunteer to coach you, $100 per 1 hour training session okay? Deal? " Well, he is more money-minded than Michael Jordan and Lance Armstrong.
the 4th person that will cross your path...
is Ah Seng
he will always be the topic of conversation between teachers in office. He will always be caught for all the things that he shouldn't do: tucked out shirt, shouting and teasing at teachers, not handing in homework at all, top the class in every test from the bottom up. He believe in living his own rules, that no one can control him. He has a very vast reservoir of vocabulary of vulgar language. He always try to act cool infront of girls by boasting how many people (smaller size poor guys younger than him ) that he beat up and how many acres of land he "control". He seems to make others afraid of him as time goes by. However he is always dressed in the most funky clothes and stylish hairstyle and accessories. If he has to join a CCA he should be in rugby. But once in a full moon he will surprise you by saying "brother, thanks for helping me cheat during the exam, i OWE you one, anyone bully you tell me hor i go K him"...well, no thanks...to a next tribal chief
the 5th person is someone you can't miss out...
is Michael
he belongs to a majority of people you can find in this vast world. He tends to live peacefully with a small group of friends. Wearing expensive clothes only during special occasions, prefer less rigorous but rewarding CCAs like Civil Defence and adventure club. His circle of friends is his classmates, and only his classmates. He try to remain low profile and is very happy to always stay around with his classmates. Arcade is his love, but he may still say "I will want to concentrate on my studies so I can enter a good college and then enter a good university and then a good job and then a good managerial post and then a good retirement and then..." His life is really planned out, just like the uncle next door...
You and me may find ourselves very much alike to one of them, but there may be also a little bit of the other. You don't have to totally BELONG to any one of them, cause none of them are perfect, but it do pays to take a look at the positive attributes of the other characters. If you are a Michael, you may want to get some sporting energies from Tom and go to the nearest basketball to sweat it out after a long day at school, or learn the communication skills and confidence of Mary to make more friends in your CCAs and in school, or you can obtain the computer-sense from John and help your girlfriend repair her antique computer...
You should remain as what you are comfortable with, but be willing to dare to and be open minded towards exploring and adopting other people's positive traits...
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