Why marriages fail-part 2

story:
John returns home after a tired day at work. The first thing he saw and heard was Mary sitting by the phone speaking angrily to the other line. John then bathe and get changed. After coming out from the bathroom, he could still see Mary on the phone. Mary was complaining to her friends how demanding and rude her manager is...not giving her any compensation for OT, scolding her infront of the other office workers, always threatening to retrench her...
Now John sits at the sofa infront of the tv and watch the 6.30pm Chinese news. In actual fact, he couldn't hear what the news presenter was saying, as his concern goes only to his wife, his ears are only tunned to what her wife is complaining. The more he listen the more he felt "useless" and "incapable" of preventing her wife from being bullied at work. He would think, if only I am richer and more successful, these things won't happen to my wife...however when he look at himself being just a low-rank executive in a huge company, he began to automatically lose some confidence in himself and his mood begins to worsen as he Thinks that it is almost impossible for him to change things over immediately...he began to think of short, impatient and passive actions to try to solve her wife's problem...even before Mary hangs up, John started to suggest that Mary quits her job, complain to her higher management or...(and in a way interrupted the conversation between Mary and her friend, a no-go thing to do)
Mary became pissed, she started speaking back at John in a tone as though John doesn't care for her at all...such as.."I am now just saying how i feel, you think i am wrong". John become irritated, "WHAT HAPPEN?" why did Mary thinks John is not showing concern for her?

Explanation: Men's thinking leans towards problem solving. Women's leans towards feeling and compassion...understand? Mary was irritated when John prompted all the "problem solving" method cause all she wanted was care and concern, not "you should do this you should do that" words from John. 98% of all women's complain asked for just a simple word or show of concern and affection, not asking for you "clever" man to solve it for them. Likewise for John, when he feels he CANNOT DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE THE SITUATION, his testosterone level sinks to the bottom and he began to lose confidence and get impatient

Solutions: John should wait until Mary HAD FINISHED TALKING ON THE PHONE AND EATEN DINNER and maybe a while after she HAD CALMED DOWN, then should he sit beside her and stretch out his hand to cover her hands and asked her how is her day. Immediately, Mary will started saying and complaining everything all over again to John..and the next step is SUPER CRUCIAL: John must NOT interrupt Mary with his "problem solving" speech,he MUST pay full concentration to her and encourage her to keep on saying, i repeat, KEEP ON SAYING. I can promise you after Mary had really said everything bottled in her mind, her temperature will go back normal, and John will be ranked as one of the best husband in the world because he LISTENS, NOT SOLVE or interrupt. Women wanted their guy partners to listen to them deeply and show understanding..thats all for today..